Q:He had time to think while he was sick. He was stuck in bed for five days. On the sixth he ignored me, on the seventh he broke it off. Said that while he was sick and he got my messages, he could not think of a reason to respond or stay with me because he had a new life in college.
I’m really sorry to hear that :( Even if he felt differently, he should’ve talked to you instead of making you worry and wait for a week.
How are you doing? Is there any way we can be of help?
I know it’s hard to think about right now, but you really deserve better than someone that just blows you off because they are in a new environment.
Q:Well a lot of guys like her but there's this one guy that he knows we're dating but he just doesn't care like the other day we were at a party and I was holding her from behind and he just came up and put his hand on her She doesn't see it as flirting really like with my example she didn't think he was trying to hold her hand but I did He tries crap like this all the time when I'm around I've got no idea about when I'm not I trust her not to let him go too far but Id prefer nothing at all.
And I know that he doesn’t care because he’s told both of us before about how over the summer, he went to visit a friend for like 5 days and they made out like the entire time he was there even though she had a boyfriend and he knew that
I mean honestly the bottom line is, if you trust her, the rest is irrelevant. There are always going to be guys that don’t respect her, or you, or your relationship. It’s an unfortunate fact of life.
As a female, I can say with certainty that it can be difficult to deal with a situation where a guy is being a bit “too friendly” but not crossing any particular lines. Some women might find it easy to always be like “fuck off” but for me personally, I’m just not wired to immediately get that defensive. Not to mention, some guys reactions to being shut down that hard can be…quite bad. Being polite is a reflex for a lot of women, for this reason. I could go on a whole tangent about this subject alone, but I digress.
You have every right to be bothered by other people not respecting boundaries, but it shouldn’t affect your relationship, period. Because the issue is with them, and not with your girlfriend.
Q:This is random, but Jay sounds like a really fun guy to be around. He seems like the cool dad type
He is totally the cool dad type and he loves dad jokes, they make me laugh/groan on a daily basis.
Q:How do you make some of these text things? Because they are brilliant and fabulous.
Q:I hate Fridays. I can't able to talk to my SO. 12 hours difference is so frustrating. Not able to see him is more frustrating. I hate every days on the week. I really can't have "us" time. And I'm crying again because we didn't got to talk today. All we ever do is leave messages and read as soon as we wake up. Then leave a message again and repeat. Ugh. I wish I was near him. I wish I am with him. It's so hard to be in a 8000 mi distance. But I'm going to do my best to make this work. :(
Aw :/ I know it’s really hard when you can’t really talk very much. Maybe when you are missing him really badly and want to talk, you should grab a notebook and write letters to him or something like that, so you can work through your thoughts and feelings and focus on something that makes you feel closer to him even if you can’t actually talk to him right at that moment. Whether you actually send those letters to him is up to you, but I’m sure he misses you just as much so it might be a very nice surprise for him to get letters, notes,or emails from you periodically to help deal with being apart.
Just hang in there and try to channel those negative feelings into something more positive and constructive.
Q:Without getting personal, how would you describe your conversations with each other? My fiancee says it is fine to not have something specific to talk about, but I can't help feel like I need to come up with something to talk about. Would you say that your conversations are like ours? (Out-of-context, intimate at times, and the situational questions)
Our conversations range from ridiculous and funny to deep and serious, with normal mundane things and romantic/sensual things in between. I think the important thing is, you just need to let conversation come to you naturally and if that’s not happening at a particular moment, it’s okay for there to be lulls.
Usually it’s extremely easy for Jay and I to keep conversations going for hours, but sometimes tiredness, stress, moods etc get in the way and we end up pretty quiet on the phone, but that never bothers us because we know we’re still right there with each other.
When in doubt, say whatever is on your mind, no matter how random it might be.