we are for each other; then
laugh, leaning back in my arms
for life’s not a paragraph
and death i think is no parenthesis
- Me: *showing a person something I think is cool*
- Person: That was a cool a week ago.
- Me: You know what else was a cool a week ago?
- Me: Not being a bitch.
Q:I don't want to butt in too much, but since I can't message the anon I'd like to put my two cents here (if you'd be ok with that. You don't need to post) But I wouldn't trust your friend that you're after. He had sex with you, and now he won't return your texts. If he knows or even suspects that you love him/like him, and he had sex with you, he did it purely for himself and manipulated you. You deserve someone who won't use you.
It’s totally fine, always good to get more perspective. Without all the details I didn’t want to assume that he was taking advantage or something like that, however - if he knew how she felt, you are probably right.
I don’t necessarily think that manipulation took place, however it certainly sounds like he prioritized his sexual desire over her emotional well being, which is just not right. You don’t treat friends that way, especially if you know they are in love with you.
Q:Okay so I have a extremely weird question. So the girl I've been dating as a LDR for awhile has schizophrenia and she kinda thinks she's a couple different people I was okay with this because I love her and I never saw it get in the way of our relationship. But one day something happened and she said she saw me with another girl in her dream and broke up with me. And then she became distant. Well what should I do. Because she says she still loves me and I still love her but she's so distant
The main thing here is you need to be patient. Schizophrenia is a complicated mental illness; emotional distance and paranoia is common. If you love and accept this part of who she is, it is your responsibility to educate yourself as much as possible about what that means for her and for your relationship so that you can properly handle situations when they arise in a way that is supportive.
Chances are she just needs space right now, because even though a part of her mind KNOWS that her dream wasn’t real, she is having difficulty separating what she saw/felt in that dream from reality. I’m no expert here, but it is my understanding that schizophrenics experience things very intensely, and when they think about something, whether real or imagined, it is like they are truly experiencing it all over again. For this reason, even something like a dream can be painful and hard to deal with.
I’m sure there are also many online communities that could offer more in depth help and support than we can as well, it can’t hurt to do some googling to find people who have experience with family and loved ones in similar situations.
Q:I had sex last night with this man who is my best friend and who I'm in love with but he doesn't feel the same about me. Should I stop talking to him for a while? Because everything always reminds me of him and it will ruin my whole day when he doesn't text me back.
You need to do whatever is best for you. If having space from him is better for you, at least for now, then you should try and have that space. I assume you want to preserve your friendship, and with the way you are feeling right now, trying to act normal and be friends isn’t going to work and could potentially damage your friendship indefinitely. However, giving yourself time to heal can allow you to protect your friendship and yourself at the same time.
I will add though that if being his friend ends up being a constant source of hurt because of his unrequited feelings, it might not be feasible to be as close as you once were. You can’t compromise your own well being for someone who doesn’t make you as much of a priority as you make them.
So this was a thing I did quite awhile ago that evolved into something for both Erika and myself as I was doing it.
A version of us as young Naruto characters, the character art and things I used to base this off were official art they didn’t draw in quite as detailed a manner as usual, so that’s why it isn’t quite as detailed and elaborately drawn as other stuff I’ve put up. Regardless I’m pretty damn happy with how our Genin selves turned out, believe it.
Q:love my boyfriend, hate the age difference. im 15 and he's 19 and im literally so uncomfortable with that but i don't want to break up w him bc we're not doing anything illegal and i like him a lot i just ugh what do i even do abt this
I’ll be honest with you, I don’t like this age difference either. It’s not that it has to be inherently bad or anything but from my own personal experience and what I have observed through my life, it’s a difference that is more significant than it appears on the surface. Age is just a number but yet this is something that is making you incredibly uncomfortable, can you put your finger on what exactly bothers you about the fact he is that much older?
Based on just the factor of age, I wouldn’t just jump to “oh you guys shouldn’t be together”, especially since you aren’t in a physical relationship, however I would take some time if I were you to really consider your relationship and if it is healthy and beneficial for you. 9 times out of 10 at your age, it is better to be single than to deal with the drama of a relationship that is causing you stress or discomfort.
Q:I see people ask you for advice. I was wonderin if I can get some advice. I really don't like talkin to my friends about my relationship But my boyfriend today told me he's losing interest. We been together about 2 now. He doesn't want to leave. He wants to try to find a spark. I love him more then myself and j don't know what to do or how to feel. I do want to try to work it out and find that spark again but how?He told me if we can't find the spark we going to have to call it quits.
Every couple is going to go through phases where the relationship gets stagnant in one way or another, and for many couples this ends up being the most difficult kind of moment to get through because we can’t help but have this mentality of “but if we love each other and are supposed to be together, it should always be fun and exciting and we should never get bored”.
That is not remotely true and having that expectation is going to slap an expiration date on any relationship. It’s baffling because we only apply this logic to romantic relationships. Your friends can drive you crazy, can bore you, can annoy the crap out of you, and yet the next day you are still friends. And yet so often when you care about someone romantically, the moment the air isn’t full of sexual tension and excitement, the relationship starts to flatline.
My point here is that the relationship doesnt NEED a “spark”. The spark is overrated, the spark doesn’t last, the spark comes and goes. When you love someone, part of that love is knowing that you will choose them even when that spark isn’t there. It’s also why it’s really important to actually be friends, because you can still talk and hang out and have fun without the pressure of romantic expectations.
Since he does want to still make it work, I would suggest you talk to him about these things, and also evaluate the relationship yourself. It sounds like he might be a bit emotionally immature so he doesn’t know how to handle the relationship going through different phases. It is something you can both work through together, but if he doesn’t have the patience or the resolve to do it, then it’s just not going to work.