I need to learn every detail of your face with my lips.
Q:I'm a freshman and the guy I like is a senior.. I mean I've known him for quite a long time now, but I don't know what to do with these feelings because I mean we're 4 years apart and it's practically illegal. We don't talk as much but I just don't want to let him go. Some of my friends say 'go for it' but the law says 'no, don't even try.'
4 years apart during the ‘teenage’ years can be a REALLY big deal. I can appreciate the fact you acknowledge that it could be problematic, because a lot of people out there wouldn’t even hesitate to think about it and would end up getting themselves into all sorts of trouble.
I think the most important thing to remember is that you guys are young, with everything ahead of yourselves, if you think maybe you have something special then just enjoy your time together and wait for a more appropriate time to actually be together, use the time to get to know each other better, make some mental/emotional connections, a relationship can be nothing but that and also be stronger than any other.
When you’re growing up, everything feels like a big deal, everything, every feeling and emotion is either the best thing ever or the worst thing ever. Sometimes you might feel like it’s different and no one can understand, it’s usually not, and they usually will, if you let them, of course there are rare exceptions and exceptional circumstances, but you get the idea.
All I can really suggest is think it over and ask yourself honestly. Are these feelings serious and not a temporary infatuation? Are they based on more than simple attraction? Do you guys have a lot in common? Do you like similar things? Have similar senses of humor? Views on life? etc. etc.
Before deciding to try and attempt any sort of relationship, you really want to know for sure if there is substance to those feelings, it’s the difference between passing on something that you may not even ever think about 15 years from now, and something you spend a long time wondering “What if?”. I hope that gives you some idea of how you want to approach the matter.
I’m just going to add one quick thing - if your age difference means that having a physical relationship is actually illegal then under no circumstance should either of you initiate any kind of intimate physical contact. It not only puts you at risk, but it puts his entire future at risk.
I really suggest you both just be friends for now and see what might happen in a couple more years.
Q:Me and my boyfriend used to be so peaceful N happy but nowadays it is going downhill. I dnt knw y I started nagging and bickering abt stuffs I could have let go even though it pissed me. I wasn't like this before. what can i do to be back to be myself again? N I feel like he has lost that patience, that faith bcoz of my moodiness becoz every time we get into a fight he threatens to break up. But after some times he cools off he says sorry and lets be back to normal. how can i save our love?
It sounds like there is something that is making you unhappy, be it him or something else that is making you lose patience when dealing with him in general. It also seems that there are things not being said.
People are not joking when they say that communication is key in relationships, but it can be tricky to understand exactly what that means, I think you need to sit down with your boyfriend and have an honest and civil discussion about why it is you guys fight and argue, it’s important to work through the muck to figure out what you are both actually feeling towards each other to cause these reactions. Otherwise it’s just going to keep repeating, it won’t go away, it’ll just get worse until one of you ends the relationship.
Discuss it together openly and most importantly, honestly. Also go back and think/discuss about when you were happy and peaceful together, what is different between then and now? As you go through details and talk it out, hopefully you’ll find your answers as to what is causing you to get upset with each other. As it stands right now, threatening to break up every time there is an argument is not the sign of a healthy relationship.
Q:Okay so I'm thinking about going into this relationship with this girl I really like but she's not a virgin and I'm worried if we do that she won't think I'm as good or I won't be as big as her last and I'm wondering is this something I should worry about? Or what can I do ?
No you should never have to worry about that, be confident in yourself and just enjoy your time together. If you really care about each other that strongly then whatever experience either of you have is going to be more or less irrelevant anyway, because being together is what counts.
I just want to add that worrying about things like this makes me wonder if you are ready for a sexual relationship regardless. Differences in sexual experience don’t matter as long as both people are able to communicate about their needs and desires. Also, guys care more about how “big” they are than most women ever do.
Q:What's your favourite thing about each other?
Hmm favorite thing… A lot of things really, but to pin it down to one thing for the sake of answering this. Erika’s eyes have always fascinated me, because they’re so dark but yet at the same time somehow always so bright and full of life.
I would have to go with Jay’s sense of humor, it varies from dry wit to dad jokes to toilet humor but my god he makes me laugh my ass off on pretty much a daily basis. I think the fact he comes across as an extremely serious person in general just makes it better. xD
Q:I met my long-distance boyfriend almost a month ago. Our first day together was perfect, but that night we were getting intimate and he decided to tell me he wasn't physically attracted to me and that we shouldn't try to pursue a relationship. He wanted to just stay friends. We were best friends before, but now it's very awkward for me. He knows that I still love him. I just can't stop those feelings, but I've been trying my best to hide them so our friendship doesn't end too. I'm just sad now.
I’m sorry to hear that, that sounds really unfortunate, and… really strange of him to just suddenly tell you that right at the crucial moment together. Unless I am missing something here it sounds like he lead you on, I don’t really know how else you end up in that situation of being intimate when he didn’t want a relationship AND also apparently wasn’t physically attracted.
Honestly that just sounds like someone you don’t need to be associating with, I know it’s hard and it must feel really shitty, but you are far better off not having anything to do with someone who will do that to you, hanging around someone you have strong feelings for when they don’t feel the same is also not overly healthy, you can’t move on in that situation, you need to find the courage to let go and never look back, you deserve better.
Q:After a year of knowing eachother, I'm finally going to be able to meet my SO in person. We met on Omegle and completely clicked. I live in the U.S. and he lives in Norway. Its a 9 hour time difference which really sucks. But I'm so excited.
Oh that’s fantastic, good luck to you guys.
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There’s definitely no one else I’d rather have my back in the zombie apocalypse, that’s for damn sure.
Me, to you
(sweet nothings for the new millennium)